What if we only dreamed of yesterday? It’s a very interesting concept isn’t it? If only everything was as it used to be. We would enjoy the same people, places and things. All things would forever remain the same.
Did you ever notice how as time moves on our memories of past people and experiences seem to by some means retain the positive and delete the negative aspects of times past? The places seem so much sweeter than they actually were. Relationships will likely seem so much more wonderful that they ever really used to be. Somehow we inadvertently left all the bad memories behind.
Absent of the heartache we begin to sensationalize what no longer exists. We begin to yearn for what no longer is probable. If we are not careful we just may put at risk all the incredible gifts of this moment by allowing the past to linger in our souls leaving no room for all that is real.
Now is the time that we have to experience all that there is. Today is the day which is the greatest of days. These are the best times of our lives. We must never be fooled to believing that yesterday was anything more than nothing because today is the only something we own and all else is deception. When we fall into this trap we forfeit the joy we can experience today for a false impression of what once was.
We are so prone to romanticizing about those special people from days gone by. If only I had her back in my life we may think. He was my knight in shining armor we may recall. The truth is that we have unintentionally built these people up to be gods in our lives and in doing so have potentially created an unattainable goal for those who we are now with. Is it possible that we have forgotten the mistrust, abuse, jealousy and lack of consideration? How could we have forgotten those unanswered calls, the no shows and all those cancelled plans? Where did the memories of all the lies go? Why don’t we remember the pains of infidelity and verbal cruelty? The reason is that if our minds held on to all those negative things we could not move on. They would weigh us down like a ton of bricks and drown us in our own emotions.
Our mind knows how to disposes of these things and time does help heal most wounds. It is all part of a process. This is what enables us to grow. However, we must remain constantly aware of what is real. Our minds can cause artifice to occur rather easily in regards to past love affairs. These brief and intense romances can take on a life of their own. We can without difficulty positively embellish upon the times that we shared while extracting the destructive characteristics from them.
A friend and I were speaking of this very thing recently. We began to reminisce about first loves. She spoke of hers as if he was the only one she would ever love that strongly, powerfully and passionately. We both spoke of that kind of love without fear. I related to exactly what she was saying on so many levels, but I knew that what once was could never be again. My first love was a truly wonderful experience, but today those feelings no longer exist. This is because that time no longer exists. The people we both used to be, what we both needed and where we were has vanished in the hands of time.
You see, everything fit just right at that time. We were the right person for each other in that particular time and place. None of these exist today. I am not the person who fell deeply in love with my first and she certainly is no longer the person I was able to love so fully and without reservation. It was a wonderful experience and well worth the pain that followed. My memories are just echoes of that experience for today the pain no longer remains. My friends boyfriend from that time is no longer who he was and back then is only a self manipulated memory anyway. Our experience was derived from an instant in time and that instant no longer exists. We can’t go back in time and even if we could the experience would prove to be distressing. What we experienced was a fantastic ride without the anticipation of an ending. We gave ourselves freely and without reservation without restraint and without trepidation.
All things in our lives have happened for a reason and today we stand at the precipice of every instant and moment which relinquish another now. If we could have everything exactly as it were we would find ourselves in a perpetual state of disillusion. Listen, we will never ever be the person we once were. We are constant and continuous creations that are being prepared always for an ascension that we partake in infinitely.
When our goals are set on what is past our dreams of a better place will never come to pass. It is imperative that we release ourselves from these self perpetuated illusions if we are ever to experience joy, happiness and peace in the present. In order for us to truly be fair and to actually appreciate the incredible gifts of the people, places and things in our lives we must focus on what is and allow the past to blur.
Today is our present; a special gift so wonderful and free. It is unique to us and to this time as it is all that there is in this now moment. Taste it! Relish in its flavor! For it will never taste the same again.
Peace be true,
Ron Ash
The Intuitive Life Coach 