Thoughts of Others

It is very common for us to give much more thought into what others think of us than what is healthy for our being. By allowing others to define who we are we choose to manifest their reality over our own. In this we have forfeited all that we are created to be and bought into the illusions of others. Do we really want to exist in their reality?

We all know the answer to that question? Well, maybe we don’t? Perhaps we find great comfort in the acceptance of others and wish to satisfy their expectations of our being. Sometimes it seems easier just to fit in and blend in with the crowd, but truthfully as long as we are not being ourselves; we will never reach our maximum potential of being.

There is no ceiling on what we can accomplish in this physical realm of existence. Truly, we determine how quickly we travel along the path of destiny. There is no final destination! We are on an infinite journey of enlightenment. We are all Destin for greatness!

This greatness is up to us to seek out. It is far reaching and ever expanding. There exists no final destination final accomplishment or absolute being. We continue to learn, expand and accomplish!

Today we hold a dream in our hearts, contemplate all that it is and visualize it in our minds while feeling all the emotions associated with it. It exists! We just need to take the initial step forward and our path will be illuminated by Spirit. Signs will materialize as checkpoints along the way.

Our dreams, goals and accomplishments will be many. As we reach out and grab hold of one, there will come another one greater on the horizon. Swinging from branch to branch is what will move us forward. Again, there is no final destination.

We are not designed for stillness. Stillness is only meant to gather the information which comes from all our senses and allows us to receive the messages of information from the Source of all things. Next we must act on this information and move forward along the path which we are intended to follow.

Everyone’s path is different. We all have been given a special gift and all will experience what we must in order to move on into the waves of our ultimate infinite ever changing destiny. We are created to create, learn and experience.

This is why it is so very important to be ourselves. Worrying about what others think will only serve to diminish our experience while extracting our energies. It will redirect the fuel for manifestations away from where we need it to be.

In this scenario we are wasting energy on what we perceive others want and expect from us. In a matter of sorts, we are in fact attempting to live their dreams and are spending on their illusions. We are who we are and the thoughts of others have nothing to do with that unless we choose to allow them to.

Our thoughts are very powerful things when we direct them intentionally. Whether our intentions are towards what we want for us or what we perceive others expect from us makes little difference. Our energies will flow in the direction of our thoughts.

When we let others limit us by telling us who we are and who we are not we become very limited beings. Their thoughts are adopted by our egos and hold us back from being all that we are created to be. We have allowed what they think of us to determine what we will or will never be.
Perceptions are a funny thing. We all have a certain image in our minds of who we are and an idea of what others think of us, but how much weight do we give these perceptions? Do we allow our perceptions to become conceptions? If we do we have chosen to live our experience, our life, by default. In this we have passed on our God given option to realize our potential and unwittingly fallen into a trap.

In being confined to these limited images we will be grounded in disappear. We will not move forward because we have come to believe that we are what we are rather than who we are created to be. Our passion is too good for us so we discount this incredible gift and fail to realize our potential for being.

So, what do we choose? Is it the reality of those around us or the reality that we create? What is real? Reality is found in our heart, soul and spirit. We feel it all the time. Actually, we even feel it when we suppress the feelings associated with all that we are. This does not feel good. You see, not using a special gift will not give us joy but sorrow.

This is why we feel negatively charged emotions like sadness, list fullness, despair and depression. We are not doing what we are supposed to be doing and are not being all that we are created to be. Our lives have been put in ultimate limbo and we have volunteered to abstain from our dreams. Other’s having told us that they are unrealistic and we have said. “You are right. I need to get real.” How ironic it is that in this statement we are being as far from real as we can get. We have given up reality in order to protect our ego. Fear of failure has grounded us in defeat.

From our heart we pray for truth, but through our ego we praise the lie. For some reason we find a great comfort in giving up on what is real in favor for what is not. We ask without believing we have received and wonder why we remain motionless. Without motion there is no life, no experience and no reward.

As we continually pacify our inactivity with drugs, alcohol, pity and other energy wasting time evaporating addictions we forfeit our experience. We stay in a holding pattern and fail to take the first step in reclaiming our lives. Our gifts remain unused, untouched and sit on the proverbial shelf collecting dust. They are unused and unappreciated. In this we may never be the recipient of these gifts again. Instead we will continue to sit on the sidelines and wait for what is already here.

Everything we need is right under our noses. The fact is that no one can see them besides us. It is up to us to recognize the incredible opportunities that are placed along our path. As we look inside ourselves we will be given the answers we seek.

In faith always,

Ron AshPicture 052

How many times?

How many times in our lives have we looked at our situation and thought I can’t do this or this is going to be hard? Many times what we thought would be the difficult thing to do turn out to be the greatest experiences of our lives. The fire was never as hot as we thought it would be. No matter what everything always works out for us. Do you know why? It is because we have been chosen to do great things in our lifetimes. We will accomplish incredible things and nothing will hold us back! All the answers are in our hearts. When we look inside ourselves we find all the answers and our path is revealed. We need to remember that we write the book. It is the story of our lives and we have the power to create them. All we need to do is picture how we want them to be and affirm that they will be that way. Our emotions are the key to the conclusion of every chapter. As we visualize what we want our lives to be and experience all the emotions associated with that we will receive it! We are very powerful! That is why we need to delete all those negative visions of a difficult future and replace them with positive visions of all that we are created to be. You can’t tell me you have not felt it in your heart so strongly that you knew that now is only temporary and the future is all that we create it to be. If you could see what I feel you wouldn’t have a worry in the world.

It’s Our Garden

Picture 007To me there is no tomato as good as a fresh garden tomato, but it has been several years since I have experienced one.  You see, some years we receive too much sun and other seasons we experience too much rain.  It is only by the perfect balance of these elements that the plant is able to produce a tomato with the taste I crave. 

There are many other factors that contribute to producing a good tomato in addition to these.  The seed must be planted in fertile soil.  The PH must be right.  Weeds must be constantly removed so not to suffocate and strangle the roots of the plant.  Insects and related infestations must be dealt with in a timely fashion.   If all these things work in unity the plant will grow healthy and strong and yield   much wonderful fruit. 

So it is when we marry.  Our love is the seed and our heart is the soil.  When we choose to tend our garden the harvest will be great.   If we leave the garden unattended and unmaintained the plants will dry up, become diseased and die.  In this our joys will never be realized.  Our love will never grow.  The sweet fruit of our love will never be experienced.  We do not love to be loved.  We love to experience the fruits of love. 

In this garden there can be many joys, many hopes and many dreams.  Yet, it must be nurtured and tended and cared for to grow.  Where would we be without sun and water?  If we are denied both continually all of its life will cease.

No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband. – Ephesians 5:29-33 (The Message)

Believing is Being

Picture 034We all need this little big reminder every so often.  When we concentrate on what we don’t want we get more of what we don’t want, but when we concentrate on our dreams (Matthew 21:22) all that we believe, feel and see is destine to be our experience.

Ron’s “Love & Respect” Review

41EZ36KCQAL__BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-sticker-arrow-click,TopRight,35,-76_AA240_SH20_OU01_This is a wonderful book that takes the complexities of achieving marital bliss and whittles them down to two needs. Dr. Eggeriches tells couples that they can avoid the “Cycle” by considering the emotional requirements of their spouse. His conclusions are based on several fabulous yet common examples taken directly from his experiences as well as those of whom he has counseled. To put it simply, a women needs love and a man requires respect in order to avoid the pitfalls of a “Cycle” of destruction.

Love & Respect is a must for all traditional marriages. Whether our relationships are six months old or sixty years young this book will without a doubt help make sense out of most every relationship issue. Eggeriche’s book should be required reading by married couples as well as those who counsel them.

Dr. Eggeriche’s book covers so many areas of spousal importance that it is almost “A Marriage Manual for Life.” Love and Respect is a comprehensive compilation for creating an enduring relationship. Rarely does a book personally inspire me as this did. Please know that I would consider it an honor to work with Dr. Eggeriche on any of his future works. Well done! 

-Ron Ash

Ron’s “Fearless” Review

FearlessMax Lucado’s newest well-timed release “Fearless” is a relevant work intended to help readers navigate the sometimes stormy waters of this earthly realm of existence.  Through various scripture and true life experiences Max paints a picture of a world where we decide!  Do we want to concentrate on the troublesome seas and tumbling horizons or will we choose the calm over the storm?   How we answer this question will decide our fate and lay the groundwork for our experiences to come. 

During the first few chapters I came to ask myself, “Where is Max?”   You see, his voice in these chapters seemed to be trying to find or reinvent itself.  Thankfully, as I entered into chapter five the trying to hard Max was exchanged for the Max Lucado I have come to know and love.  Soon I would be back with an old friend chatting in his living room sharing warm funny and heartfelt testimony of how fear was replaced by hope, faith and love to find peace in a complex world.

 “Fearless” is a must have book designed to assist Christians of all denominations in their quest to become all that they are created to be.  The author lays out simple yet profound advice for living a happy life “NOW’ by choosing to trust God and the plan He has for us while releasing ourselves from the illusions of the material world.  Bravo Max on a job well done.  -Ron Ash

Focus on All

Focus on All 

Sometimes we can concentrate so much on the players that we miss the play. 

So much of our lives, up to this point have been based on who we assume we are to be.  We easily look to those around us for clues about who we are.  Expressions like, “The in crowd, being in style, fitting in, keeping up with the Jones have plagued us and bound us in a prison of our own minds.

In this we continually resist being all that we are created to be.  That’s right; we are who we are created to be.  It is in this very moment that lays all Truth in what we are continually and infinitely being.  Not only can we not be someone else, but they cannot be us either.  Try as they may or as we may it is not an option to be anything less than the super special and unique individual which is our creation. 

The first clue that we are not being whom we are created to be is the feeling of dissatisfaction.  When we concentrate on what we think we should be we miss the beauty in who we are.  In this very moment in time, before thought, is the mystery of Truth.  Happiness exists in this very moment and It is by are thoughts and the emotions associated with them that the course is set for what we will experience in the NOW moments to come. 

We are always best at being who we are. 

You see we are always best at being who we are created to be and when we are being whom we are we are happy.  Everything feels right when we accept ourselves for who we are.  We have no need to compare ourselves to anyone else.  Then we learn another little secret; we are happy for others who are blessed too.  No longer do we have the need to bring people down or make their blessings and accomplishments seem less than they are.  Why?  Well, it is because today we are the best that we are created to be.  All other things no longer concern us because we are now euphoric in our being. 

Here is the second clue that we are not being true to Ourselves.  We are inundated with resentment.  The accomplishments of others and the things they posses become a thorn in our side.  From this we begin to affirm lies passionately and with our most intense emotions.  We emphatically state, “I don’t want a life like that!”    Perhaps we believe, “She must have cheated her way into that position.”  Maybe we adamantly explain, “My life sucks!  I would change places with you in an instant.”  There are many examples of this type of negative mind set, but the bottom line is that it all comes down to one thing, “So what!”  None of these things have anything to do with who we can become in this instant. 

Do we believe that we are our souls and our spirits created in the image of God?  Are we totally aware of exactly what that means?  We are not mistakes!  We are not errors!  Every One of us is a unique beautiful wonderful creation of infinite possibilities.   So why would we only strive to fit in? 

We are only limited by what we think is impossible. 

The greatest people in history, as unique as they were, had no more potential for success than we do right NOW.  We decide how far we can go, what we can do and how great we want to be.  We have the power which comes from the Creator and resides in our hearts and souls to create ourselves.  It is a matter of choosing who we will be.  We must choose the life that we want! 

How many times have we said, “I don’t have time?  Not right now.”  How often do we say maybe later? When asked to take some time to enjoy right now do we cling to the mundane tasks of the day?  Have we forfeited today for what could have been done tomorrow.  Do we miss the opportunities to enjoy life now because we have chosen to put ourselves on a rigid schedule of unnecessary and overdone tasks?  Do we resent others who refuse to fall into the same cycle of never “Being” as we have?  Well, if so it is time to break those chains of our self imposed oppression and “Be” now! 

You see my friends the grass does not always need to be cut on Saturday.  Go some place special with your kids when the sun sits high in the sky and enjoy the gift of a gorgeous day.  Take your daughter to diner and a movie.  The laundry can be done anytime.  She is available and wanting to spend time with you today.  Don’t sit home and sulk on a rainy day.  Take the opportunity to visit family at their home.  There just may be something in all these things that needs to happen in order for us to move on.  In these moments could be the knowledge and wisdom, that comes through the experience, that will launch us forward in our journey to being all that we are created to be. 

We have been pondering the signs that tell us we are not being who we are.  It is now easier for us to identify everything that we have been unintentionally doing to avoid “Being”.  Why?  It is because we have never or not recently been told to be what our heart tells us to be.  We have accepted the illusion of “get real” and now live our life by default.  Only occasionally do we revisit our dreams, contemplate our aspirations and wonder, “Who Am I?”  I Am all that I Am created to be. 

God has given us an incredible gift, a unique specialty and a wonderful purpose.  Where is it you ask?  It is wrapped inside the most beautiful package and seated on the shelf of our living room.  It is covered with dust and waiting patiently for us to pick it up, hold it near to our hearts and unravel the mysterious gift within.

 Passion is the soul’s recognition of God’s gifts. 

Here lies the secret which enables us to be the greatest “We” that we are created to be.  Many of us have been avoiding what we have already known our entire lives.  There is something that we love to do, but someone long ago, possibly well intentioned, told us that we are not worthy of the gift.  When we use these gifts hours seem like minutes and we can do them all day everyday and for the rest of our lives.  This is what we are passionate about and passion is the soul’s recognition of God’s gifts.  When we use these gifts we are guaranteed success.  We are happy! 

We can choose to be happy today.  There is no reason to think that we have to jump through a series of hoops before we can be happy.  It is a silly illusion to believe that what will make one person happy will make everyone happy.  There exists no cookie cutter program for happiness! 

So why have we conditioned ourselves to settle for less?  Well meaning people who loved us felt the need to protect us from failure.  They did not believe in us and we began to not believe in ourselves.   They had bought into the illusions that were sold to them. In turn we accepted these myths and decided to play it safe. 

What were these illusions you ask?  There were many basic rules like we will be happy when we have enough money, marry the right spouse, attend the right school or get the right job.  Yet, how much is enough money?  What is enough for one is not enough for another.  What is the right school, right spouse or right job?  It is all subjective.  This especially holds true when happiness is concerned.  What is the biggest untruth of all?  We are average.  Wow!  What an incredible contradiction in thought exists in this statement.  Average!  How could we look at the most basic principle of creation and believe we are any less than spectacular?

And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. – Genesis 1:26 (King James Version)

Never second guess what our heart knows.  There is no ceiling restricting our rise.  Our ascension is a limitless infinite journey of “Being”.  Sometimes we have to close our eyes in order to see; in seeing is our “Being.”

In faith always,

Ron Ash